Many couples have different ideas about what their lives will be like in retirement. Before you make a move, get both your dreams on the table separately… then discuss them together. It can be like falling in love all over again!
Time and place are often the two biggest decisions… and it's rarely a black-and white issue. In fact, sometimes there is something much deeper going on than just deciding when and where to retire. Put everything on the table before making any decisions, including 'trying on' different lifestyles before making an actual move.
Here are some tips:
- Research different areas, then rent a place in each of them for at least two weeks to get a feel for the place and how you will both like it
- Consider whether you want (or can afford a second home)… will you keep your original home first and sell it later?
- If you have children or grandchildren, how will they impact your decision?
- If you have different things/places that make you happy, consider living apart for part of the year until (and if) both of you find yourselves fulfilled and happy in the same location
- Understand your goals… individual and united goals drive everything else
I think of retirement as an exciting time for couples on the other side of the life circle, 'after' children and careers rather than 'before'… a wonderful time to re-discover life together and embark on new adventures.